Be your
own princess ! Recently, there are few friends of mine just ended their
relationship which we all thought
they
wouldn't. Being single for about a year has thought me a lot, which might be
also affected and exposed by the 'real university' - working society.
So, why
are you not the one ?
1. You’re just too serious
We are
at the age where flirting and having meaningless conversations is time wasting.
You’d rather have a sincere conversation with someone who’s is a potential future
partner of yours rather than someone who means nothing more than a waste of a
few minutes. What you want is a gutsy man, a real man who will go through all
the thick and thin with you. You don’t need a simple text ‘hey’ at 3 in the
morning when he just need someone to talk to because he is bored or because he
couldn’t sleep or a ‘have a good day’ where he has no intention to talk to you
and to care about how’s your day going on. You need reassurance over a short
text which leads to no where. And yes, you are not the only one he is talking
to.
2.Flings
just isn't your thing
“I
like you but, I am not ready yet.” If he isn't ready to be with you, it takes
them forever to be ready. Accept the fact that they don’t want any commitment
or sincerity with you. Long term relationship is just not their thing. They
would rather prefer to have a no-string-attached relationship with you or with
few other more girls.They seek for entertainment when they are bored. in the
other hand, you are looking for sincerity and commitment. What they want is
just want dates, no strings attached. Your perspective of ‘dating’ is just
different from theirs.
3. Your expectations are way too high,
you want a
10/10
You
just want a few minutes of their time. You don’t want to be in a relationship
where you rarely see each other (does not apply to long distance relationship)
, you want to spend time with them, exploring your likes, comfort your anger
and overcoming your fears. You want a short phone call, to check up on each
other and find out how each other’s day was.
You
WISH them to notice the little things of yours. How you DISLIKE coffee, how
much you love yoga, how come you are phobia to little animals. It’s not just
the physical attraction you want. You don’t want a relationship where
your other half doesn’t hold interest in you. You want to share your day,
your passions, how frustration your work is, your feelings, to
them. When you’re are down, you want them to lend their ears to you; giving you
reassurance that you’ll make it through the day.
LOL !
But you are asking too much ! Your standards and demands annoys them and they
think that this is way too much. This is using up too much of their time,
showing that how insecure you are. You’re too high maintenance for them.
4. Sorry
but you’re not the priority
If he
cares about you, there is no way of “Sorry I am busy, I cant make it” and
that’s it without thinking of “But hey, I will make it up for you next (date)”.
If he doesn’t want to, he can’t spare time for you. Yes, understand that you
are busy with your work, and you did not expect to be immediately. If he didn’t
make it up for you when he is less busy, girl he is just not that into you
after all. He should make time for you, just a few minutes. You’re someone on
the side that isn’t as important as his business or as his buddies. And you
can’t accept that, you are not part of there life. If you keep holding onto
someone who treats you like an option, you will miss someone who treats you
like a priority. Be with someone who treats you as a destination !
5. You don’t deserve a boy.
You
don’t deserve a boy and you definitely don’t need one, what you need is a man
with equal priorities. You don’t need to lower yourself just to feel secure in
your future. Just be yourself. If he is the one, he will accept all your standard
and flaws. You were meant for a man who’s has no intention in breaking your
heart. If he is yours, he will be yours eventually. You will have it in the
most unexpected time.
6. He is
just not into you
No any explanation needed. And that's how the truth is.
Yes,
standards are great but keep in mind not to have standards so high and
ridiculous. I am not too sure whether the perfect guy still exists. If you
found one, you are lucky, keep it safebox.
